I find myself being "reinvented" as of late. I rather like the new Shayna, though sometimes she catches me off-guard. Trying to stay positive and make it through the legal battles and material struggles, the late nights alone and mountains of housework, the exhaustion and occasional despair. I've become more aware of how many people experience these same conditions and wanted to share a few things that have helped me...
Drive with your windows down. Sing at the top of your lungs. Watch out for flies.
Every once in a while, just give in to the hurt. Curl into a ball in a dark corner, lock yourself in the car and scream as loud as you can, climb to the highest peak, spread your arms to the heavens and bawl "why G-d, why?!" Then dry your tears, get some sleep, and start the next day with a new determination to count your blessings and be truly grateful for the good left in your life. It could always be worse.
Meditate for five minutes every day, and if you don't have time for five minutes then meditate for an hour.
Grow a garden, learn an instrument, try something new...try ten new somethings! Don't stop until you've acquired a new hobby that you wonder how you ever lived without.
Gather up all the candles you've ever been gifted and burn them at once.
Find out where the local tourist attractions are for your area and visit them. Pretend you're from out of town, wear khakis and a funky sun hat, take lots of pictures.
Go through your Facebook chat list and randomly send nice messages to friends who are online. You just might make someone's day amazing. You could even save someone's life.
Get an ice cream cone, sit on a wall, swing your feet and hum while enjoying the sweet, creamy goodness.
Compliment someone you meet today. Compliment yourself, out loud.
Run outside barefooted. Watch out for glass. Wiggle your toes in the dirt and pretend that you're a kid again. Where is the best spot for a tree house? Could you make a good pretend salad with those weeds?
Stuff yourself silly one day with cake and cappuccinos. Juice the next day.
Purge. Forgive but don't forget; shake out the pain and anger to make room for new love to grow. Hold onto the memories only enough to keep lessons learned the hard way, so that you don't have to learn them all over again. Let go of things that don't fit you anymore, whether feelings or music or clothes.
Write a poem, paint a picture, sew something new. Whatever your preferred medium is, just create.
Volunteer. 'Cause the more that you give, the more you've got to give.
Take a hundred selfies one day in the widest variety of poses, but don't share them with anyone on any platform.
Lock the doors and make sure your blinds are shut tight, then dance naked in your living room. Laugh plenty.
How do you get through the tough times? Share your best remedies in the comments below: